An Ancient Key to Accessing Your Purpose

Ancient Key

In this guest post, Ayurvedic Practitioner and founder of Vibrant Souls, Sierra Brashear, speaks to all you feminine entrepreneurs, and every women who feels disconnected from their yoni . She shares the ancient roots of yoni steaming and gives a simple yoni steaming ritual, so you can be reconnect to your yoni and reclaim this part of your sensuality!

Your yoni — your vagina and womb — is a powerful force in the world. A symbol of the Hindu Divine Mother, the yoni is revered in ancient Indian cultures as undeniably sacred. It is, after all, the origin of life — the place from which we birth not only babies, but ideas, visions and businesses. Connecting to our wombs connects us to our purpose. As beautiful and magical as those of us who are blessed to have one, our wombs are central to our energetic, emotional, sexual and intellectual wellbeing. They are to be honored, respected and loved by us, and of course, by all those lucky enough to be in their presence.

But let’s be real, ladies.

For many of us, our wombs are can be a major source of grief. For those who suffer from trauma, painful menstruation, fertility challenges or uterine irregularities, the word “yoni” may not exactly conjure up images of ancient Indian goddesses dancing in the moonlight. To many, the womb is a distant and mysterious place — certainly not somewhere we’d find ourselves connecting to purpose.

So…the time has come to transform the experience we have of our wombs, for the sake of transforming how we show up in our relationships, businesses and the world. Its time to celebrate our lady parts in all their excellence, and listen…they key is here…

It’s called yoni steaming. Yes, you read that correctly. Steam–your–yoni.

It’s an idea whose time has come…again.

Yoni steaming is actually an ancient women’s remedy that is being fervently revived by powerhouse women like you who are ready to celebrate, pamper and support their divine feminine. It may sound odd to some, but steaming the vagina has stood the test of time as a respected treatment for women, used by traditional healers across the globe to cleanse and revive the womb. In Mayan culture, a yoni steam session is known as a bajo, while in Korean culture the treatment is known as chai-yok.

In these communities and others, women have found yoni steams to heal many of our womb woes, from menarche to menopause. While there may be no scientific studies that so-called “prove” it, the timeless wisdom of women has shown yoni steaming to be an effective treatment for uterine discomforts and disconnection.

This simple home treatment is known to help reduce pain, bloating and exhaustion associated with menstruation, regulate irregular or absent cycles, increase fertility and speed healing in the postpartum period. It is also known to treat aspects of abnormal uterine pathology such as uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, uterine weakness, uterine prolapse and endometriosis.

In addition, many women steam their vaginas to treat chronic vaginal or yeast infections, as well as to support detoxification of the entire body. Perhaps best of all, yoni steaming comforts and relaxes the mind and body, reducing anxiety and inviting in an enhanced sense of wellbeing.

Not only is this ancient remedy an incredible opportunity for us to support, heal and regulate our miraculous reproductive systems, it is an opportunity for us to take a moment to love, appreciate and indulge our beautiful yonis, and ourselves, so that we can love others even more.

Yoni steaming truly is one of our best tools for reconnecting to our bodies, and for becoming more confident, sexy, and empowered in business and in life! It is a perfect way to reconnect to our true purpose.

So, are you ready to try it for yourself?

The yoni steaming process is easy. Here’s how to treat yourself to this delightful self-care ritual:

1.     Simmer 1 heaping cup yoni steaming herbs in 2 quarts of water with the lid on for 10 minutes, then remove from the heat for 5 minutes.

2.     Carefully pour the herbs and water into a 3-quart stainless steel or glass bowl, and place this in the bottom of a 5-gallon pail.

3.     Place a yoni steam seat over the top of the pail, disrobe from the waste down and sit on the seat. The steam should feel warm on your skin, but not hot (if it feels too hot, stand up so as to avoid burns). Wrap blankets around your legs and body to hold the heat in. Staying warm through the process is essential.

4.     Sit in place with your yoni gently taking in the steam for 20-30 minutes as you meditate, read or journal, allowing the steam to gently work.

5.     Afterwards, lay down in a warm bed for at least an hour, or preferably for the entire night. Place your hands on your womb, and send loving, healing intentions into her as you drift into a blissful sleep.

For best results, steam two to three times in the week before you expect your period to begin.

What do you need to know to yoni steam safely and effectively?

Anytime we give ourselves and our precious bodies a treatment at home, we should be sure to do our research and listen to our intuition. As you consider trying a yoni steam at home, be aware that a yoni steam should not be done under certain circumstances, including: in the case of pregnancy, during menstruation, or with any kind of intrauterine device (IUD). It is also wise to avoid yoni steaming in the case of an acute infection, illness or fever, or in the case of open wounds or inflammation. Finally, exercising simple caution during yoni steaming will help you to avoid burns. Never yoni steam with a continuous heat source, and test the temperature of the steam with the back of your hand before exposing your sensitive vaginal tissue. The steam should feel pleasantly warm, and you should immediately move away from the steam if it feels too hot.

Ladies — time for women everywhere to discover the beauty of our own bodies, celebrate our miraculous yonis and understand the gifts the Earth has given us to treat ourselves. It’s time we all steam our yonis in celebration of the divine feminine, to discover our unique purpose that lies within, and to further our contributions to our families, our communities, businesses and the planet!

Sierra Brashear, MA, is an Ayurvedic Practitioner and founder of Vibrant Souls, a wellness company that makes organic yoni steaming herbs and yoni steam seats available to women around the world. She also offers online wellness courses in Ayurveda as well as private consultations through her joint practice, Cultivate Balance

How to let go of fear being judged, and stop caring if you trigger people

fear of being judged

I’ll be honest with you this is one that still pops up for me though it’s not as strong as it was a year ago when I first became a sensuality + mindset coach.

“I really like sensual embodiment AND I really get to help other people with it too???”

“Is it ok to be this bold and talk about sensations, breast/womb/pussy connection like I talk about any other hobby I have that I get excited about?!?!”

“Won’t someone call me out on being inappropriate or make some comment about my value as a womxn?”

I’m in a different place now, and with more mastery under my belt I want to share the shifts that helped me to get here.

My Process

1. I listen to myself even more.  I tune into my body to see what I’m needing, feeling, and desiring.

2. I follow through and give to myself what I want to nourish myself.

3. I recognize that when others are triggered that I am not responsible for their response, reaction, or emotions.  It isn’t my job to take care of them or save them.

4.  I recognize that triggers show us what is ready to be healed and released, so that we can embody who we are meant to be.

I feel a warmth in my chest that I get to show up and be in my truth, and the impact that can have for others without any harmful, button pushing instigation.

I choose to show up fully me in my magnetic, radiant, full expression instead of a diluted, disempowered version of me that operates from a place of fear.

Showing up as myself is an invitation to you to show up as yourself in your magnetic, radiant, full expression.

Have you felt afraid of being judged for embracing your sensual embodiment, or scared that you’d trigger someone?  I’d love to talk with you in the comments!

First things first

first things first

I was getting ready to drive back to my apartment from my parents’ house, and I didn’t want to. I didn’t have any energy and all I wanted to do was lay in soft bed, not pack my things and drive. I checked in with my body and felt how much of my energy was out of my body and in my head {hint: it was a lot like 90%}.

So I did what I know to be true
I called my energy back to my body
Back to my heart
Back to my womb
And back to my pussy

Because you are powerful and fully resourced from within, connecting with your radiance, creativity, and inner wisdom when you do so.

After I did that I had more energy, felt more relaxed, had a little swagger in my step, and was on the road in no time.

Notice that I’m not saying I’m perfect, that I’m ignoring how I felt, and I didn’t keep pushing through.

Because we don’t need to be perfect, numb out our feelings, or push through to be confident, free, sensual empresses.

Comment below “I choose being fully resourced from within” if this resonates with you.

How to Create a Sensual Space

sensual space

We have been eating, sleeping, learning, and being in an environment that supports being in your head, being stuck in anxiety where your love, acceptance, and approval are in the hands and hearts of others, and where perfection is ruler of them all.

As people if we desire a change in ourselves, we can rely on two things.  Internal resources and external environment.

Waking up to a space that connects you to yourself is done with intention.  Here are 4 common questions that I’ve asked myself when creating my sensual space.

  1. What colors do I want to see?
  2. What textures do I want to feel?
  3. How do I want to move through the space?
  4. What scents do I want to smell?

I realize that not everyone has the same living situation that I do.  I have my own space that I don’t have to share. If you do share your space with your partner/family/roommates, I have a couple of suggestions for you.  

  • Start with one part of your space.  A desk. A closet. A nightstand. Your bed.

  • Collect a few things that make your space more sensual and keep them in a basket or container and bring them out during your sensual practice.

What’s one thing you love about your sensual space?  Tell me in the comments.

What I’ve Learned in my Pussy Immersion

learned

Ladies we’ve been given a crappy education about our pussies.

We’ve been taught that our vagina are for someone else or to relate to our vagina is just to experience intense cramps when Aunt Flo visits once a month.  Other than that ignore, numb out, forget, disregard, fear, and disconnect with that space in between your thighs.

As feminine beings, having a connection to your vagina is not valued due to cultural and religious agendas.  Knowledge of the full female anatomy has been pushed off for ages. In 2005, a research study was published giving a comprehensive account of the anatomy of the clitoris that included a 3D MRI image of all the parts of a female erectile network.  On top of the lack in physical and muscle structure, there are also the important pieces about the powerful energy she has, and how hormones play a part. I was drawn to each piece little by little for over a decade.

I also feel the backlash of history with my pussy as a woman of color.  Not just that story of womxn’s bodies being devalued and overpowered, so that we learned to numb out, freeze, and have our voices negated.  But also that people of color weren’t humans and yet at the same time were seen as temptresses and natural-born Jezebels with a somatic siren call.  That black womxn were strong and couldn’t feel pain (see this recent research study from 2014). Part of the injustices with slavery is what happened with black womxn bodies.  Countless rapes. Countless violations. Countless overpowering. The OB/GYN field of study started with experiments on black womxns’ vaginas without anesthesia and without consent.  My pussy cried when I learned that. Both of these pieces, the old conscious about womxn’s bodies and this historical reference as a woman of color, are my reasons why it’s important for me to reclaim my connection to my pussy.

Was this part of me that was so private and internal supposed to be a mystery to me?

Was this part of me that was so hush hush supposed to be an elusive connection that others could access but I couldn’t?

Was this part of me that was dangerous, wrong, and forbidden?

Part of me.

Because my pussy is part of me, a part of my body, I decided that I had every right to get to know her.

It started with a mirror and my hand.  

I literally remember that I didn’t have an image for her at all…..just a space or a zone down there.

When I saw her for the first time, it was like looking up at someone across the room that was there all along.  

I noticed her shape, her color, her smell.  For me it was like beholding a jewel because in my eyes I wanted my connection to be one of love, not degrading or devaluing her.

Then she started to talk to me.  Pulses, juices, her open and close, and her “yes” and “no”.

So no matter what you’ve thought or felt about your vagina, here are some tips to help you reconnect.

  1. Naming

What you call your vagina is important, so ask her what she wants to be called.  Do you want to reclaim pussy? Does she like yoni, which means “sacred space”? Does she like to be called Goddess?  

  1.  Look at her

Get a magnifying mirror and look at her.  Start at the pubic mons and let your eyes wander down.  Notice if your outer labia is an innie or an outie.  Notice the color. Does she look like a particular flower?

  1.  Do something special for her

Wear those panties that feel good and cute to you.  Trim (or not trim) your hair the way you like it. Do a yoni steam with natural herbs.  Explore your turn on.

What’s your connection with your pussy?  Let me know in the comments.