How to let go of fear being judged, and stop caring if you trigger people

fear of being judged

I’ll be honest with you this is one that still pops up for me though it’s not as strong as it was a year ago when I first became a sensuality + mindset coach.

“I really like sensual embodiment AND I really get to help other people with it too???”

“Is it ok to be this bold and talk about sensations, breast/womb/pussy connection like I talk about any other hobby I have that I get excited about?!?!”

“Won’t someone call me out on being inappropriate or make some comment about my value as a womxn?”

I’m in a different place now, and with more mastery under my belt I want to share the shifts that helped me to get here.

My Process

1. I listen to myself even more.  I tune into my body to see what I’m needing, feeling, and desiring.

2. I follow through and give to myself what I want to nourish myself.

3. I recognize that when others are triggered that I am not responsible for their response, reaction, or emotions.  It isn’t my job to take care of them or save them.

4.  I recognize that triggers show us what is ready to be healed and released, so that we can embody who we are meant to be.

I feel a warmth in my chest that I get to show up and be in my truth, and the impact that can have for others without any harmful, button pushing instigation.

I choose to show up fully me in my magnetic, radiant, full expression instead of a diluted, disempowered version of me that operates from a place of fear.

Showing up as myself is an invitation to you to show up as yourself in your magnetic, radiant, full expression.

Have you felt afraid of being judged for embracing your sensual embodiment, or scared that you’d trigger someone?  I’d love to talk with you in the comments!

First things first

first things first

I was getting ready to drive back to my apartment from my parents’ house, and I didn’t want to. I didn’t have any energy and all I wanted to do was lay in soft bed, not pack my things and drive. I checked in with my body and felt how much of my energy was out of my body and in my head {hint: it was a lot like 90%}.

So I did what I know to be true
I called my energy back to my body
Back to my heart
Back to my womb
And back to my pussy

Because you are powerful and fully resourced from within, connecting with your radiance, creativity, and inner wisdom when you do so.

After I did that I had more energy, felt more relaxed, had a little swagger in my step, and was on the road in no time.

Notice that I’m not saying I’m perfect, that I’m ignoring how I felt, and I didn’t keep pushing through.

Because we don’t need to be perfect, numb out our feelings, or push through to be confident, free, sensual empresses.

Comment below “I choose being fully resourced from within” if this resonates with you.

How to Create a Sensual Space

sensual space

We have been eating, sleeping, learning, and being in an environment that supports being in your head, being stuck in anxiety where your love, acceptance, and approval are in the hands and hearts of others, and where perfection is ruler of them all.

As people if we desire a change in ourselves, we can rely on two things.  Internal resources and external environment.

Waking up to a space that connects you to yourself is done with intention.  Here are 4 common questions that I’ve asked myself when creating my sensual space.

  1. What colors do I want to see?
  2. What textures do I want to feel?
  3. How do I want to move through the space?
  4. What scents do I want to smell?

I realize that not everyone has the same living situation that I do.  I have my own space that I don’t have to share. If you do share your space with your partner/family/roommates, I have a couple of suggestions for you.  

  • Start with one part of your space.  A desk. A closet. A nightstand. Your bed.

  • Collect a few things that make your space more sensual and keep them in a basket or container and bring them out during your sensual practice.

What’s one thing you love about your sensual space?  Tell me in the comments.