3 Beliefs That Are Standing Between You and Being Sensual + Empowered AF

Have you ever felt selfish guilty at the thought of putting your desires above what other people want?

It’s familiar to sit boxed in with your head down and to know what others want.  It’s not as familiar to know what you desire and to get it. You often feel your attention and focus was on what needed to be done on an agenda that is not your own, and consequently your energy was connected but you lacked that connection to yourself and your sensuality.  “Oh no! I just want to make sure that everyone else is ok and happy, and making sure work gets done.” After all, it’s easier to put your focus and energy outside of yourself because when you turn inward the dialogue often goes like this.  Here are 3 thoughts that contribute to that.

  1. “I can’t embrace my sensuality.  It’s dangerous and dirty, and good girls don’t do that.”
  2. “I shouldn’t be playful; someone may think I’m leading them on and get hurt.”
  3. “I’m here to support and love my family/partner and make them look good.”

I get it.  I’ve been in that place where I was so connected to making sure everything and everyone else was situated, and I pushed what my body connection.  Instead of being connected to my body and all that comes with it (intuition, wisdom, creative energy, and joy), my compass was other’s opinions and desires.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

 You can decide to live in your sensual and that your connection to your body isn’t a danger to you or anyone else.

You can see yourself with eyes of love first, and believe that you are inherently worthy.  It’s not about what you say or do. Or what others say.

 You can have the sexy paydays, gelato, pizza, and wine in Italy, and the loving partnership with a energetically and spiritually woke man.

It’s not selfish to embrace your sensuality.  You can have both sensuality and self-love, get things done, and community.

Which thought from this post resonated with you?  Tell me in the comments!

What happened when I reconnected to my pussy – something you want too

I have strong feelings about my pussy.  

Let’s have an honest heart to heart about “down there”.  I learned as a little girl to ignore, cover, and be quiet about my pussy.  It wasn’t sacred, beautiful, or safely held. So I disconnected in as many ways as I could.  I didn’t talk about her, listen to her, look at her, or touch her. I wanted to minimize my acknowledgment of her and I was emotionally numb to her.  I counted it as a blessing I started my period later. My friends always complained about their periods, talking about how painful they were while grimacing. I learned that periods were an inconvenience and painful, not something to celebrate.  But during undergrad, I decided that I wanted something different. I didn’t want resentment or to feel uncomfortable with that part of me.

Is this true for you too?

I wanted to reclaim my pussy.  

To reclaim her as a sacred space.

To reclaim her as beautiful.

To reclaim her as a part of my sensuality.

So I did.  

I believe we should have a joyful connection with our yonis.  I believe we should be able to feel safe with them. I believe that being touch with our yonis can deepen our relationship with our self, and that our relationship with ourselves is an important one to cultivate.  Can we truly say that we love ourselves if there’s a part that is cutoff by fear and dislike?

What do you think?  Tell me in the comments below!