Have you ever felt selfish guilty at the thought of putting your desires above what other people want?
It’s familiar to sit boxed in with your head down and to know what others want. It’s not as familiar to know what you desire and to get it. You often feel your attention and focus was on what needed to be done on an agenda that is not your own, and consequently your energy was connected but you lacked that connection to yourself and your sensuality. “Oh no! I just want to make sure that everyone else is ok and happy, and making sure work gets done.” After all, it’s easier to put your focus and energy outside of yourself because when you turn inward the dialogue often goes like this. Here are 3 thoughts that contribute to that.
- “I can’t embrace my sensuality. It’s dangerous and dirty, and good girls don’t do that.”
- “I shouldn’t be playful; someone may think I’m leading them on and get hurt.”
- “I’m here to support and love my family/partner and make them look good.”
I get it. I’ve been in that place where I was so connected to making sure everything and everyone else was situated, and I pushed what my body connection. Instead of being connected to my body and all that comes with it (intuition, wisdom, creative energy, and joy), my compass was other’s opinions and desires.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
You can decide to live in your sensual and that your connection to your body isn’t a danger to you or anyone else.
You can see yourself with eyes of love first, and believe that you are inherently worthy. It’s not about what you say or do. Or what others say.
You can have the sexy paydays, gelato, pizza, and wine in Italy, and the loving partnership with a energetically and spiritually woke man.
It’s not selfish to embrace your sensuality. You can have both sensuality and self-love, get things done, and community.
Which thought from this post resonated with you? Tell me in the comments!